How much of your life do you as a professional woman spend attempting to fulfill someone else’s expectations of you? How many times do you make decisions based on what someone thinks you ‘should’ do? If you are like most people (and that includes me) you probably give far more attention to those shoulds than is healthy for you.
As children, we are brought up on shoulds such as, ‘you should eat all your supper because there are starving kids in the world,’ ‘you should drink your milk because it’s good for you,’ ‘you should share your toys with all the other kids,’ and of course, ‘you should be a good girl and go to bed now’. Those are just a very few of the shoulds we grow up with. There are thousands more.
As we grow and mature, we become so accustomed to doing what we are told by our parents and teachers that in many instances, we end up living on automatic pilot. We don’t stop and think about our choices, we just do what we have been taught we ‘should’ do. In this way, we spend our lives living by other people’s rules unless we make a conscious choice to become aware of our own personal values and then live by those tenets.